I grew up deep in the heart of Texas eating dunkaroos and sausage. My dad and my older brother and I played every game you imagine with a ball for hours in our front yard. I held my own and competed from day one.
In fifth grade I announced I was quitting all my other sports to focus on basketball. Specifically I was I shooter. In high school I made 348 free throws in a row once. After being a Nike-All American and winning three state championships in went to Baylor University. While at Baylor, we went one Sweet 16 and won the National Championship in 2005 where I hit five 3s in the first half. Now I mentor high school and college athletes who want to reach that level and I find the relationships I build in that work to be incredibly rewarding and meaningful.
Beyond basketball, I also had my own personal revolution at Baylor where I decided to accept myself as a gender and sexually creative person (my spin on the gender and sexual minority term) and give myself a shot at a life of freedom and fearlessness - even though I couldn't picture it. I had spent years drowning in fear and shame about who I was. Sometimes silently and sometimes being violently targeted and humiliated publicly. But worse than anything anyone ever did to me, was how I felt about myself.
I felt so alone and so isolated. I had no information with which to understand, support, appreciate, or much less thrive in my own skin - I did well to survive emotionally. Because I put so much energy into surviving, I miss out on a lot learning and development during my teens and early adulthood. Among my biggest aspirations in life is to help young gender and sexually creative people have more energy to devote to thriving and to know a world were survival is less threatened.
One of the ways I do this is by partnering with non profits and philanthropic groups and small businesses to advance wellness for all people. I have four years of experience working in business technology where I have managed social media, made websites, and hundreds of other kinds of technology loose ends that people need to pull together in order to build and sustain a digital presence. I work in IT at UMass Amherst doing these kind of things professionally and love to share my skills when I can, so if I can help in that way let me know.